OBSERVATION: Forgiveness – Should you continue to forgive a person who continually does things that require forgiveness?

Whether to forgive and whether to stay in any sort of relationship are two very different questions. There are two types of forgiveness: One is to free the person who needs forgiveness from guilt, to let them off the hook, to give them a second chance. The other is to free yourself from the bonds of resentment so you can move on. If you are forgiving as a healthy life strategy to keep your life unencumbered by past hurts, you may also have to look hard and objectively about the wisdom of subjecting yourself to new hurts and disappointments. It’s unlikely the other person will change so you have to, either by changing your mind about the way you experience the things that have hurt you  in the past — that is,  just don’t let it get to you. Or you can change your circumstances by moving away from the source of pain. Please watch the beautiful video  on forgiveness, filed under Worth Watching.

 

 

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  1. “…you may also have to look hard and objectively about the wisdom of subjecting yourself to new hurts and disappointments.” That can be so piercingly true. Your thoughts bring up so many things that affect life’s relationships. But when you exercise forgiveness with someone you care about, the hurt can turn into hatred.

  2. We are told in Scripture that we forgive others or we will not be forgiven ourselves. Forgiveness is more for us as the forgiver than for those from whom we are “asked” to forgive. That, however does not mean we are to be stupid. If your friend or family continues to be untrustworthy and do things that hurt you or place you and/or your family in jeopardy, cease having them in your life.

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