COMMENTARY 768.1: We Shape Our Own Character

by Josephson Institute on March 23, 2012

in Commentaries, Parenting, Family

There’s no doubt that our character has a profound effect on our future. What we must remember, however, is not merely how powerful character is in influencing our destiny, but how powerful we are in shaping our own character and, therefore, our own destiny. Character may determine our fate, but character is not determined by fate.

It’s a common mistake to think of character as something that is fully formed and fixed very early in life. It calls to mind old maxims like “A leopard can’t change its spots” and “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.” This perspective that our character is “etched in stone” is supported by a great deal of modern psychology emphasizing self-acceptance. As Popeye says, “I am what I am.” The hidden message is: Don’t expect me to be more, better, or different.

Ultimately, these views of humanity totally undervalue the lifelong potential for growth that comes with the power of reflection and choice. How depressing it would be to believe that we can’t choose to be better – more honest, more respectful, more responsible, and more caring. None of us should give up the personal quest to improve our character. Not because we’re bad – we don’t have to be sick to get better – but because we’re not as good as we could be.

There are so many things in life we can’t control – whether we’re beautiful or smart, whether we had good parents or bad, whether we grew up with affirmation or negation – it’s uplifting to remember that nothing but moral will power is needed to make us better.

No, it isn’t easy. But if we strive to become more aware of the habits of heart and mind that drive our conduct, we can begin to place new emphasis on our higher values so that we become what we want our children to think we are.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

See What is Character at http://whatwillmatter.com/2011/11/commentary-what-is-character-751-2/

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Rex Morgan March 30, 2012 at 10:06 am

Hello Mr. Josephson,
I am a friend of Nat Cooper in Lubbock, Texas. I have a high respect for you vision of teaching that character counts in all societies. I am in charge of broadcasting to Latin America for World Christian Broadcasting. I am requesting permission to translate your messages and record them in order to make an impact in Latin America. If they are already available in Spanish and in Portuguese please direct me to them so that I may broadcast your very important message.
Yours truly,
Rex Morgan
Sr. Producer for Latin America
World Christian Broadcasting
954-309-2949

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ayu zees April 3, 2012 at 6:17 pm

I never miss my time reading quotes or commentaries from your website. It helps me very much to make me better. Thanks a lot

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Jannah April 4, 2012 at 12:25 am

Character may determine our fate, but character is not determined by fate… So so true! Thanks for the beautiful article Michael :)

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