Friends Aren’t Perfect

We have to make room in our lives for people who may sometimes disappoint or exasperate us. If we hold our friends to a standard of perfection, or if they do that to us, we will end up far lonelier than we want to be. – Harold Kushner

How You Make Others Feel

Great visual reminder of Maya Angelou’s great insight about communications: “People don’t always remember what you say or even what you do But they do remember how you made them feel.”

A Good Companion

A good companion is someone you spend time with when you want to have a good time. True friend is someone you want to be with when you’ve had a bad time. It’s great when they are the same person. – Michael Josephson

WORTH READING: Learn more on how to identify and deal with toxic relationships and emotional vampires.

Life coach Cheryl Richardson describes six types of toxic qualities in people. The Blamer: This person likes to hear his own voice. He constantly complains about what isn’t working in his life, and yet gets energy from complaining and dumping his frustrations on you. The Drainer: This is the needy person who calls to ask for your guidance, support, information, advice or …

OBSERVATION: Beware of emotional vampires.

Protect yourself from “emotional vampires,” people who suck you or the room dry of cheer or optimism.  Look out for workmates, family members, even friends who consistently bring you down or drain your energy with endless complaining or relentless criticism. Seek out the people who bring out the best in you and be sure that you are not someone else’s …

OBSERVATION: Giving Advice

Observations about advice: 1) Proverb: “To be successful is to follow the advice you give to others.” Why are we so much smarter, more sensible, and stronger when we are dealing with problems of others? 2) Samuel Coleridge: “Advice is like snow; the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind.”  Giving …