On a scale of one to ten, with ten being “It’s as good as it gets! I’m even happier than Charlie Sheen thinks he is,” and one being “Life sucks; it can’t get worse,” how happy are you with your life?
Researchers say that when asked to grade their lives on a happiness scale, most people give a score of 7 or 8.
It’s a tougher question than it seems because how you feel right now has a powerful impact on how happy you think you are. For example, one of my daughters is despondent because she broke her cell phone and is suffering painful withdrawal symptoms. Her need to read and send texts appears to rival an addict’s craving for drugs.
Happiness is not an objective fact; it’s a feeling, a state of mind, and it’s a lifetime goal. Thus, regardless of your starting point, the pursuit of happiness is not really about being happy. It’s about being happier in two different ways – happier than we are now and happier than others.
Thus, a person who just received a large raise but discovered he is paid less than most people who do his job is likely to be less happy than the person who received a smaller raise but knows she makes more than others. Remember the parable of the man who was miserable because he had no shoes until he met a man with no feet. The comparison made him happier. The problem is it can also go the other way, as with the man who loved his small house until he visited a man who lived in a mansion.
This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.
“People who come to believe that they need whatever they want mount a treadmill that can never take them to happiness.” –Michael Josephson
“Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it.” –Fyodor Dostoevsky
“What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” –Colette
“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” –Abraham Lincoln
“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” –Friedrich Koenig
“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” –Dalai Lama