You Could Say Ouch 722.3

In his book, If I Were to Raise My Family Again, John Dreschler tells of a little boy trying to get his father’s attention after scraping his knee.

His dad impatiently looks up from his paper and barks, “Well, what can I do about it?”

The boy, hurt by his harsh response, shrugs and says, “You could say ‘Ouch.’”

You could say ouch. What a wonderful metaphor to remind us of the power and importance of caring and taking the time to show it. The boy wasn’t asking his dad to solve a problem; he was simply trying to share an event.

Because I have a tendency to focus on fixing rather than feeling, I too have to remind myself that empathy is not an intellectual ability; it’s an emotional quality with healing power that works only when expressed. Sometimes just listening and showing genuine interest and compassion is all that’s needed. With four young daughters and a sensitive wife, I’m still learning that tenderness is more important than toughness.

When my kids were little, the remedy for every “ouchie” was a kiss from mommy or daddy directly on the wounded area. In serious cases, a bandage was also required. It’s easy to laugh at, but there’s something truly wonderful about how often a loving kiss makes things better for young children.

We shouldn’t underestimate the healing power of sincere compassion, concern, and affection. And we ought to try it more on adults. Take a moment to acknowledge their ouchies, too, and simply be there – with a kiss, a hug, or a kind word of consolation.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

Comments 1

  1. Great article yea at the end of the article I liked how you said that you would give your kid a kiss where it hurts I do the same thing with my 4 year old boy, its articles like this that you should always be reading so it can remind you of how there are other ways to help besides giving some one tangible you can talk with them and ask them what

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