The Legacy I Seek 728.2

It was a great Father’s Day. Each of my five children wrote me a personal note and said nice things about my dadship. They were sweet and affectionate, and I loved it.

My craving for praise and affection from my children is a bit pathetic, but as a much-older-than-average father of four teenage girls and a young unmarried adult son, I think about my legacy in terms of how I will be remembered by my children and described to grandchildren I’m not likely to meet.

Of course I hope I’ve helped them develop attributes and wisdom that will improve every aspect of their lives, but it’s especially important to me that I provided them with a sense of security, self-esteem, and self-confidence.

First and foremost, I hope my children feel secure in my love, devotion, and admiration. I hope they have no doubt that I will continue to love them even if they make mistakes or do things I disapprove of. I hope they have confidence that I will support their life goals and do all within my power to protect them.

Second, I hope I’ve helped my children develop self-esteem, a belief that they are essentially good and worthy despite their faults and imperfections. I hope I’ve taught them to always pursue growth and self-improvement but to not judge themselves too harshly.

Finally, I hope I’ve helped instill a steadfast self-confidence in their intellectual abilities and emotional strengths. I want them to believe in themselves and their capacity to do whatever they want to do, be whatever they want to be, and survive every manner of setback or tragedy.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.

Comments 2

  1. This is a great message. I can tell that you are a very good dad. I’m telling you this, because my dad has given me all of the things that you have hoped for. As long as your intentions are sincere, you work hard, and try to be patient,
    “mission accomplished.”

  2. A little late with my comment as I work through some disturbing thoughts of my own legacy as a father. As a recovering alcoholic in AA (27 years) I was for most of my early married life remote and distant from my wife and children. I was, in fact, emotionally detached from everyone, due I believe to a loss of self-esteem by being sexually abused at a very early age.This last Father’s Day I was anxiously awaiting a call from my two daughters who usually call on holidays, but neglected to call this year. I was hurt,but through my spiritual AA program and Christian allegiance to God, I have retained my emotional balance and sense of serenity. Your own comments have helped as well, Michael, and I wish you a belated Happy Papa Day, and I know that both my daughters love me, as I love them, and God loves us all.

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