Marriage Is Not a Word 737.3

Marriage is not a word; it’s a sentence.

Marriage is a three ring-circus: engagement ring, wedding ring, suffering.

A man is incomplete until he’s married; then he’s finished.

Marriage is finding the one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.

Why are there so many mean jokes about marriage?

Today, my bride and best friend Anne and I celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary – and our marriage is no joke.

Marrying Anne was the smartest thing I ever did. We had the best prenuptial agreement you could create: we promised to keep loving each other. And we have.

They say a wedding anniversary is a time to celebrate yesterday’s memories, today’s joys, and tomorrow’s hopes.

In fact, our memories of ten years of diapers, strollers, and car seats help transform today’s constant chaos of serving and supervising four active and independent teenage daughters into a form joy.

Every milestone event proves the wisdom of Mignon McLaughlin’s description of a successful marriage as falling in love many times with the same person.

A happy marriage is as hard and as simple as loving enough to forgive each other and forgiving enough to love each other, no matter what. It’s a continuous conversation with the person who cares about the things you care about more than anyone else in the world. It’s telling each other a thousand things without ever talking. It’s not being able to imagine being without each other.

Contrary to the jokes, marriages are not held together by chains but by the thousands of tiny threads representing shared experiences. I am grateful for every thread and looking forward to a few thousand more.

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.
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Here’s some favorite quotes about love and marriage:

A happy marriage begins when we marry the one we love, and blossoms when we love the one we married. –Sam Levinson

Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction. –Antoine de Saint-Exupery

What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility. –George Levinger

Grow old with me!/The best is yet to be. –Robert Browning

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. –Marcel Proust

It doesn’t matter where you go in life, what you do… it’s who you have beside you.

There is no feeling more comforting and consoling than knowing you are right next to your loved one.

We have changed over the years, but the sparkle in your eyes is as bright as ever, and my love for you is even stronger.

Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away. –Dinah Craik

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. –Ruth Bell Graham

Our wedding was many years ago. The celebration continues to this day. –Gene Perret

You make me want to be a better person.

Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate. –Barnett R. Brickner

Don’t marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can’t live without. –James C. Dobson

A perfect marriage is one in which “I’m sorry” is said just often enough. –Mignon McLaughlin

My wife says I never listen, or something like that….

Marriage is when a man and woman become as one; the trouble starts when they try to decide which one.

The Japanese have a word for it. It’s Judo – the art of conquering by yielding. The Western equivalent of Judo is, “Yes dear.” –J.P. McEvoy

Comments 8

  1. I read your commentary on Ruth and my 37th anniversary and forwarded it to her. We both celebrated again by reading about your experience. Thank you, as always.

  2. I was married for 26 years to the love of my life. He went to work one day and came home with a brain injury from which he did not recover. The fight for his care and benefits was so vicious that it left me sick. I had to divorce my beloved or die.
    What I can say is that each of us must be complete unto ourselves and our God, however, we describe That Which Is. When we bring ourselves whole to another who is whole, beautiful things happen, life’s lessons are learned, life renews itself. The other can be a spouse, a child, a friend, a co-worker, a casual encounter. This is the world of form where all is temporary, all changes, all comes and goes. So enjoy this precious day with the special people in your life. Appreciate for a moment all the things they do to bring you a smile, a small delight. Have you said “Thank you” today to your spouse, your children, your co-workers, the post man, the grocery clerk? Today may be the day that your whole life changes.

  3. Our 46th wedding anniversary is coming up soon. We have seen the ups and downs that comes with living and loving a person who is totally different in personality but shares the same life goals. Marriage isn’t about the $20,000 wedding but all the life that comes after that. My husband has a fond saying that marriage isn’t 50/50 but 100/100 and I totally agree with him. 46 years of marriage doesn’t just happen, it takes love and work. I must also say our strong faith in God has certainly contributed to our marriage. He needs to be central in any marriage as our anchor and guide.

  4. I am a widow of one year after a marriage of 35 years. After reading the quotations and comments, I am overwhelmed not with sadness, but with happiness at my great good fortune in having had him as my husband, my love, my friend and partner for so many years. We had a lovely journey together, full of bumps and detours, but also full of memorable experiences and people and our love for each other. I am grateful for being reminded of this.

  5. In a world where the definition of marriage, and the living out of being married has changed, your words are a welcome reminder. Marriage is not a human devise; it is a sacred and holy representation of relationship with God. It is not merely a choice; it is a committment, made daily, again and again. No relationship can bring more trials and joy, and when successful, few things bring greater rewards, here and in heaven. Thank-you Michael.

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