OBSERVATION: Giving Advice

Observations about advice:
1) Proverb: “To be successful is to follow the advice you give to others.” Why are we so much smarter, more sensible, and stronger when we are dealing with problems of others?
2) Samuel Coleridge: “Advice is like snow; the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind.”  Giving advice that isn’t received as criticism takes tact, timing, and a supportive tone.
3) Khalil Gibran: “Most people who ask

for advice from others have already resolved to act as it pleases them.” Many people are not really seeking advice; they want affirmation. They want you to approve of what they did or want to do. Saul Bellow said, “When we ask for advice we are usually looking for an accomplice.”
What’s your best advice about advice? When has it worked and when has it backfired?

Image: A cat gives advice to his son.

Comments 5

  1. #3 strikes a chord with me. I find that most people I think are trying to seek my help with a problem actually spend most of the conversation trying to justify their situation or actions than actually listening to my advice. Do you encounter that a lot when people are trying to seek your professional advice? I would think they’d be more open to your opinion as a professional and throw their desire for affirmation aside.

  2. I love this picture of the two cats…Cats are smarter and wiser than you think. They are loyal and protective to their fellow cats ( in house) and their humans.
    My last cat( Putu) passed away at the age of 19 year and I had held him the day he was born and the day he passed away. A special moment. He was a loyal and kind friend. Although I miss him terrible, I know that the best thing to do is give another cat a good and loving home. We have two new cats…Coco and Barney. They have different personalities but we are all slowly bonding. Hopefully they will live long and happy lives too. What more can we all ask for. A little kindness and compassion can go along way in the the animal and human world. Janet ( Saint John, N. B. Canada)

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