When Being Right is Wrong (or Irrelevant)

As I reflected on the year gone by as a prelude to doing better in the year to come I realized how many times I (and others) have caused strife and sometimes done

serious relationship damage with no benefit whatever in an effort to “be right.” I’ve discovered three stages of rightosis: 1) certainty that I am right about something or someone, 2) a desire to be sure others know I am (or was) right, and 3) a desire to have another person not only acknowledge I was right, but that they were wrong. Reasons #2 and 3 are pretty pathetic signs of egotism, but what about #1? Well even if I could be silently and anonymously right (and my certainty is no evidence that I really am right), it’s rare that it really matters to anyone but me whether I’m right or not. The pursuit of being right is a habit I’d like to break. How about you?

Comments 1

  1. Great insight! The egoistic desire to be right is something I must avoid but at the same time we do find ourselves in situations that a decision must be made and every decision has consequences for yourself and in occasions for many others so it is important to know whether you are right or wrong before making a decision and to support that decision you must stand by it with a clear explanation. Depend on what position you are in and the role you play to make decisions, sometimes it’s important that others know/understand that you are right, but they don’t have to agree and at that point, I could care less if they do.

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