Expanding on the theme that the best way to improve your life and have an exceptionally successful and fulfilling New Year is to increase your wisdom and optimism, I urge you not to just skim this essay but to take some serious reflection time to answer these questions: What did you learn last year that will help you become wiser …
OBSERVATION: Scientific evidence and personal experience teach us that approaching each daily task and our lives in general with a positive attitude (optimism, enthusiasm, confidence) significantly increases actual success and enhances personal happiness. Yet many of us stifle our careers and pollute our personal relationships by persistent negativity. Just as losing weight and keeping it off is really hard, so is losing self-defeating attitudes and staying positive — but it’s doable and worth it. The strategy: self-consciously cultivate optimism.
Here are some suggestions to help you more consistently reap the benefits of positivity.
WORTH READING: Reflection Before Resolution by Ingrid Mathieu, PH.D.
This is an excerpt. Read the full article at PositivelyPositive.com. As we approach the end of 2011, I am all for setting our sights on a pleasurable and prosperous 2012. I know many people are due for a positive shift and the New Year can signal a fresh start, an opportunity to shake things up and to set some goals for …
WORTH SEEING: Reading and learning expands your mind and heart by making you wiser and more compassionate. See these beautiful paintings depicting people enjoying the gift of reading.
Here are some beautiful paintings depicting men and women expanding their lives though reading.
QUOTES: 15 Quotes worth reading about the worth of reading
1. You know you’ve read a good book when you turn the last page and feel a little as if you have lost a friend. ― Paul Sweeney 2. Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors, and the
Personal Note From Michael Josephson: Closing Out 2011, Entering 2012
As I began to write this note conveying my best wishes to you for a happy and fulfilling New Year, I asked myself whether 2011 was, for me, a good year or a bad year. And, of course, my mind quickly filled with conflicting memories of happy and sad moments, achievements and disappointments, and the recognition that every year has …
WORTH READING: Get Smarter! Start the New Year With the Five Best Books I Read in 2011. What books are on your list?
Here are the best five books I’ve read this year. They are so good they are all on my top-ten of all-time list. In the comment section please share the names of the best books you’ve read this year and if you are willing add a sentence or two on what you found so good about each book. The Happiness Hypothesis by …
COMMENTARY: Some of the Things I’ve Learned 755.3
I hope you are looking forward to the new year, not just because you will be glad the old one is over but because you know 2012 will be full of opportunities and challenges that will bring you pleasure and fulfillment. It’s traditional to start the New Year with resolutions designed to help us live healthier, happier, and more rewarding …
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COMMENTARY: Good Memories — The Gift That Keeps On Giving 755.1
When giving gifts or spending your own money, remember that experiences create deeper and longer lasting pleasure than any object you can buy. In a world preoccupied with the quest for material possessions, it’s easy to overlook the fact that the most valuable things we own are our best memories. Good memories are the gift that keeps on giving. They …
QUOTES: A Collection of Wise and Eloquent Words About Christmas
See an expanded and revised version (December 24, 2013) of the collection at https://whatwillmatter.com/2013/12/the-best-ever-quotes-about-christmas-and-the-christmas-spirit-compiled-by-michael-josephson/ Christmas is not a time or a season but a state of mind. To cherish peace and good will, to be plenteous in mercy, is to have the real spirit of Christmas. – Calvin Coolidge Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy …
COMMENTARY: ‘Tis the Season to be Jolly — Even While Shopping 754.4
People are not at their best in crowds. It’s as if every survival-of-the-fittest primordial instinct comes out to obliterate thousands of years of civilization. Pre-and post-holiday shopping, and the inevitable lines, test our character. My wife’s a professional shopper. She has strategies on where to park and how to find the fastest moving line (which I’ve discovered is not always …
OBSERVATION: I assume some people find Christmas shopping a joyful experience, though the fact that I couldn’t find a good article or video proclaiming this position has made me wonder.
There are plenty of articles about the stress of shopping, and I’ve heard plenty of complaints that the burden of shopping for people who have everything has made the experience anxiety-producing. Then, of course, is the question of who outside your immediate family you need to buy gifts for and how much you need to spend. Finally, the whole issue …
COMMENTARY: Surviving Critical Relatives at Family Gatherings 754.3
I realize that not everyone lives in a Norman Rockwell world where family gatherings are sources of warmth and good memories. For some, the prospect of holiday get-togethers generates dread and anxiety; they are something to endure, not enjoy. One reason is that family members can be tactless and downright cruel when expressing their opinions about perceived foibles, flaws and …
You are not Inferior
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. – Eleanor Roosevelt
OBSERVATION: How Buddha dealt with criticism
According to an ancient story, Buddha was known as a man who could not be provoked to anger or hostility. A man traveled hundreds of miles to test Buddha’s reputation. When he found Buddha, he immediately began to criticize everything he could; he insulted him, he challenged him, he did everything he could to offend Buddha. Buddha was unperturbed. He said, …
WORTH READING: 8 Helpful Ways To Deal With Critical People
Reposted from Personal Excellence blog by Celestine Chua 1. Don’t Take It Personally. Most of the times, their criticisms reflect more about themselves than about you. They react in this manner because of certain beliefs and frameworks they have about life. You may think the critical person is all out to get you, but it’s more likely he/she reacts in …
WORTH READING: How to Deal With Critical Family Members
4 Ways to Disarm Critical Family Members Re-posted from Recovery Help Now by Vanessa Blaxland, MFTi. We all have them. You know, that one family member that always has something negative to say about how you did this or that, or why are you this or that way. I’m sure just thinking right now about how this person gets under …
COMMENTARY: FAILING FORWARD: Turning Stumbling Blocks into Stepping Stones 754.1
The best way to teach our children to succeed is to teach them to fail. After all, if getting everything you want on the first try is success, and everything else is failure, we all fail much more often than we succeed. People who learn how to grow from unsuccessful efforts succeed more often and at higher levels because they …
OBSERVATION: Talent is, of course, important, but the two qualities that make the critical difference between talented people who succeed and those who don’t are persistence and positivity. Successful people don’t give up or lose confidence; they learn from every experience and get better.
Two of America’s greatest inventors, Charles Kettering and Thomas Edison, embraced the same philosophy, which allowed them to take in stride what others called failure, and build upon it. Kettering said: “I failed forward to success. An inventor fails
QUOTE: If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else. – Yogi Berra
MORE QUOTES ON GOALS:__ To reach a port, we must sail—Sail, not tie at anchor—Sail, not drift. Franklin Roosevelt __ Our plans miscarry because they have no aim. When a man does not know what harbor he is
WORTH READING: Setting Goals
Six Principles of Goal Setting Written by Susanna Palomares Sunday, 16 January 2011 Reprinted from Women’s Media Why is setting goals important? Because goals can help you to be, do, and experience everything you want in life. Instead of just letting life happen to you, goals allow you to make your life happen. Successful and happy women have a vision of how …