Mr. Martin told his English class that leadership was “influencing meaningful change either through your own conduct or by motivating others to act,” and he assigned an essay requiring students to write about a personal experience with leadership. The students groaned, insisting they couldn’t think of anything, so Mr. Martin read an essay submitted last semester:
COMMENTARY 771.4: The Responsibility to Decide
Frank is a new supervisor who wants to do well. Maria consistently comes in late. When he confronts her, she makes a joke out of it. Hoping to win friendship and loyalty, Frank is painfully patient with her, but Pat, a conscientious employee, urges him to do more. Soon others begin to come in late, and Pat quits. Frank feels …
SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT FOR TEENS: Is This Generous or Just Dumb?
Hi, this is Michael Josephson for CHARACTER COUNTS! with “Something to Think About” A few years ago, I told this story on the radio and it generated a lot of disagreement. Jack was excited when he was given an unexpected bonus check of $1,000 from his employers. He was anxious to rush home to tell his family, but before he …
OBSERVATION: Expressing Appreciation — Why is it that so many of us wait until it is too late to experience and express real gratitude to those who gave us the gifts of love, wisdom, and encouragement?
Why do we wait to put our deepest emotions into eulogies? Everyone should have the pleasure of hearing the eulogies they have earned. The greatest gift you can give someone you love is to express sincerely your appreciation for the things that they have given you. It might be a parent, grandparent, brother or sister. Maybe it’s a teacher, coach …
WORTH READING: An Insightful Article on the Scope and Causes of Bullying
This article is somewhat dated (2008) but still is a very useful resource and worth reading. You can read the whole thing at the San Francisco Chronicle. Bullying takes twisted turn for the worse Regan McMahon, Chronicle Staff Writer Sunday, August 17, 2008 Oakland first-grader Zachary Cataldo suffered a skull fracture when a fifth-grader allegedly slammed him against a tree in …
OBSERVATION: A Mother’s Message About Bullying: Hang in There. It Will Get Better.
While researching the bullying issue for a CHARACTER COUNTS! seminar, I came across Vicky Bell’s blog, where she posted a letter to her daughter in college. I think her advice moving and wise. Here’s her letter: Letter to my daughter ( in the wake of senseless tragedy) Hello my girl, I wanted to say hi and tell you how much …
WORTH READING: Letters to a Bullied Girl
From the publisher: Olivia Gardner, a northern California teenager, was severely taunted and cyberbullied by her classmates for more than two years because she was an epileptic who had suffered seizures in front of classmates. News of her bullying spread, eventually reaching two teenage girls from a neighboring town, sisters Emily and Sarah Buder. The girls were so moved by Olivia’s story …
WORTH READING & SEEING: “Stand Tall,” a song encouraging bullied victims to have strength
Here’s a comment by the performer, Lauren Irwin, from her website: “At many points in my life I found myself thinking I wasn’t good enough. I wasn’t smart enough, thin enough, fat enough, tall enough, pretty enough, quirky enough, blonde enough … the list goes on. I’m a pretty positive person, although it might not sound like it, but I …
Don’t Miss This One! OBSERVATION & WORTH SEEING: Out of the Closet. I know many of the people who follow my work have a deeply grounded religious belief that homosexuality is a sin. Many fortify their convictions by believing that God would not make any child homosexual and, therefore, that it is a choice to be gay or lesbian. Whether you fall into this group or simply want to better understand the human dimension of this aspect of the bullying problem, please take the time to watch the videos included here. It could change your perspective, maybe even your life.
First, a preface: Young people are harassed, humiliated, and intimidated at school for all sorts of reasons – their looks, the way they talk, their race, and more — but students who are or are perceived to be gay are subjected to the most persistent and pernicious forms of bullying. This has led to more suicides than any other cause …
COMMENTARY 769.5: Sharpen Your Ax
Ben was a new lumberjack who swung his ax with great power. He could fell a tree in 20 strokes, and in the first few days he produced twice as much lumber as anyone else. By week’s end, he was working even harder, but his lead was dwindling. One friend told him he had to swing harder. Another said he …
COMMENTARY: The Guy in the Glass
Years ago I came across a poem entitled “The Man in the Glass” by Dale Wimbrow. I looked it up on the Internet and discovered a website maintained by his children that contains the original version written in 1934 and published in The American Magazine as “The Guy in the Glass.”
OBSERVATION: About the ethical duty of respect
We are not morally or otherwise obligated to respect any individual. We choose those whom we hold in high esteem, and some people are not worthy of our special respect. We are, however, morally obligated to treat everyone with respect. A person of character treats
QUOTE: “Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” — Bernard Baruch
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COMMENTARY 768.3: Shaping Values, Shaping Lives
Blessed with the opportunities and burdened with the aggravations of raising four teenage daughters , my wife Anne and I are profoundly aware of the importance of instilling good values and decision-making skills to help them be safe, successful, happy, and good. I think we’re doing a good job, but we know that isn’t enough. We worry about the values …
QUOTES: The Best Wise and Witty Quotes about Children and Parenting
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WORTH READING: When Dealing With Teens, Try More Silence
Giving Your Teen the Silent Treatment By Patrick C. Friman, Ph.D., ABPP, Boys Town (This article is part of a parenting.org series for parents of adolescents.) It takes two to tango. You cannot have a tug of war without people pulling on both ends of the rope. And, an argument between a parent and a teenager requires both participants to vocally …
WORTH READING: Top 5 Strategies for Teaching Your Children to Behave
From Boystown: Children are great learning machines, but they learn more through experience than they do from their parents talking. Below are five strategies for teaching your children how to behave. Teach children acceptable and unacceptable behavior immediately after the act. Don’t wait. For important matters such as commands or instructions speak less; one or two words for every year
WORTH WATCHING: Parenting on Facebook. Dad’s rant against 15-year-old’s disrespectful and profane Facebook post ends with shooting her laptop. Gets 31 million views and sets off national controversy.
In February 2012, a North Carolina dad named Tommy Jordan discovered a Facebook post by his 15-year-old daughter that trashed him and complained about chores in a manner that most would agree was disrespectful and profane. He videotaped his response and ended his 8-minute rant by literally shooting her laptop. He posted the video on her Facebook profile and it went viral …
WORTH READING: “If I Had My Child to Raise All Over Again” by Diane Loomans
If I had my child to raise all over again, I’d build self-esteem first, and the house later. I’d finger-paint more, and point the finger less. I would do less correcting and more connecting. I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes. I’d take
WORTH READING: “When You Thought I Wasn’t Looking” — a poem about parenting
When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you hang up my first painting on the refrigerator, and I wanted to paint another one. When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you feed a stray cat, and I thought it was good to be kind to animals. When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you make my favorite cake …
WORTH SEEING: Poster – Don’t Chase Love
DON’T CHASE LOVE. Love cannot be caught like an unwilling butterfly. Nobody loves you just because you want them to. Nobody loves you just because you ask them to. When love comes , it comes on its own wings . Be patient.


